Last night it happened. We knew it would happen soon but to say we were prepared really would be a lie. Last night you rolled out of your bed for the first time. OK, it’s not that big of a deal, really it’s a four inch drop, harmless, but man were you shocked and screaming at 2am. Terrified your Dad and I with the first wail. Why are you in a “bed” you ask? Because we’re doing a floor bed for you rather then a crib.
The first three months of your life you slept in our bed with us. Honestly it was amazing. I never worried I would squish you or roll over on you, as a parent you just have this instinct, a natural instinct to care and protect your children aka don’t smother them when you’re sleeping. I know I’m very opinionated about how I think is the proper way to birth and care for children. With most stuff in life I’m like “live and let live” but I feel having a raising children is such an organic, natural thing and there are right and wrong ways (buh bye 10 follows haha). I feel sleeping with your child is one of those natural right ways that main stream media has shunned. After all we’re pack animals at heart. One thing you should NEVER do is sleep with your child if you’re under any sort of influence though, this is where problems arise and people get hurt. I seriously think cribs are horrible. think about it, your little, your parents are you WORLD, you wake up from a bad dream in the middle of the night and you’re confined to a cage, scared, and alone. That just doesn’t feel OK to me no matter how “safe” a sleeping arrangement it is.
I can’t really have a opinion on the “creating bad habits” story of letting your child sleep with you but I know what my experience has been so far. At about 3 or 4 months old baby G decided she had enough cuddles every night and wanted her own space so we shifted her for the first shift of her sleep schedule (she still joins us every few nights early morning) to a floor bed and she was happy. No separation anxiety and no having to let her cry it out spells. I think because we gave her SO much physical contact those first few months with her in our bed that she grew confident in us as care takers and trusted that we are there. The freedom of the floor bed doesn’t hurt also I feel.
I first read about floor beds on Smonk You. Their son developed super quick and I really believe it has something to do with the fact that his wife is a Montessori teacher by profession. I love the idea behind Montessori, giving the child the space and tools they need to grow into creative positive adults. I would never send G to one of their schools being I do feel their need to be a balance and if you never learn to respect authority because of so much freedom then you’ll have a whole other collection of issues but I am using some Montessori tools in my home. Basically the idea around the floor bed is you don’t cage your child in. They can wake up, get themselves out of bed, access their toys when they want to and basically have a small freedom to make decisions each and every morning. Of coarse with out saying this means you need an uber baby proof space for them to have free reign in, and a security measure like a gate or something (her bedroom door leads into our bed room not a hall) to make sure they don’t go on any adventures out of their rooms before you wake up.
So far the floor bed has worked out great besides for G rolling out of it for the first time (onto a soft plush shag carpet keep in mind). But, this roll was to be expected since she’s becoming more mobile. Eventually she will learn how and when it’s good to roll out of the bed and when it’s not, for the mean time we’re just making sure there’s no hard toys anywhere for her to hit. I love the fact that we and the nanny can actually curl up with her in her bed to help her fall asleep, so many more bonding moments that wouldn’t have happened if we had a crib.
G will be crawling in a couple weeks if not a couple days at the rate she’s squirming now so I’m excited to see what adventures she takes on her own in the mornings to come.